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🔎 What We’ll Learn in Today’s Newsletter

• Why most teams think they’re taking ownership—but aren’t

• The 3 hidden signals that show whether your team is actually accountable

• How your own habits might be unintentionally blocking real ownership

• A simple language shift that nudges people from passive updates to proactive decisions

• A repeatable 1:1 structure that builds accountability without micromanaging

• 🔒 [Premium] The exact 6-tactic Ownership Playbook I use to turn hesitant teams into self-directed leaders

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Hi friends,

Let’s talk about one of the hardest things to fix as a leader: when your team avoids taking real ownership.

You’ve got smart people. You’ve made expectations clear. You’ve even said in a 1:1, “I want you to take more ownership.” But here you are still making the same decisions, answering the same questions, catching problems they should’ve flagged.

Here’s the uncomfortable truth. If your team isn’t stepping up, part of that’s on you.

Where it breaks down

I’ve been there myself. I used to assume ownership was instinctive. That if I gave people the space, they’d naturally rise to the occasion. Sometimes they do. But most of the time, they hesitate—not out of laziness, but because they’re unclear, unprepared, or not confident enough to act.

Ownership isn’t a pep talk. It’s a system. And most leaders never actually build that system.

So we get surface-level ownership. People nod in meetings, repeat the right phrases, but when the pressure hits, they freeze. They wait for direction. They miss the early warning signs. They blame blockers. And you end up in firefighting mode. Again.

What ownership actually looks like

Real ownership has three key pieces:

• Clarity – I know what success looks like and what I own

• Agency – I feel trusted to act without hand-holding

• Accountability – I carry the result, good or bad

Miss even one of those and people retreat into safety mode. Safety looks like silence, escalation, or deflection.

If you want to start fixing it, clarity is usually where to begin.

Try this: ask someone on your team what success looks like for something they’re leading. If they can’t give you a clear, confident answer in under 30 seconds, you’ve got a gap. That’s where ownership starts to die.

Could you be the bottleneck?

Let’s be honest. Sometimes we create the very problem we complain about.

We step in too quickly. We answer questions before they’ve even been thought through. We give detailed instructions without asking for their view. We become the safety net. And without meaning to, we train people to rely on us for everything.

When every path leads back to you, you’re not managing a team. You’re managing a queue.

Here’s a quick example from my world.

We had a support analyst who flagged every client escalation to their manager. The manager would then step in, coordinate the response, bring in other teams, and report back. This loop repeated for months. One day, we asked the analyst what they’d need to handle it end-to-end.

Their reply? “I didn’t know I was allowed to.”

Of course they were. We just hadn’t made that expectation clear. That was on us.

Building ownership into your team’s habits

Ownership isn’t a single conversation. It’s built over time through habit, reflection, and making room for safe failure.

Here are a few practices I’ve seen work:

• Ask more than you answer – Try, “What’s the next step you think we should take?” before offering your view

• Push for decisions, not just updates – Don’t settle for status. Ask what call they made and why

• Get comfortable with silence – Let them sit in the space between the question and their answer

• Debrief wins, not just misses – Help them understand what worked so they can repeat it, not just avoid mistakes

Start with these. They may seem small, but they create momentum fast. And when you’re ready to make a bigger shift, where your team takes full ownership and stops handing problems back to you, you’ll need a more structured approach.

That’s what this next part is built for.

🔒 The Ownership Playbook: 6 Tactical Moves You Can Steal Today

Inside the playbook:

• The exact language I use to turn “update culture” into “action culture”

• A plug-and-play decision filter that removes team hesitation

• Three simple questions that train independent judgment

• A 1:1 structure that builds accountability without micromanaging

• A “default-to-action” checklist for before they come to you

• A retro format that exposes where ownership is slipping

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